Who’s winning in your marriage by doing the majority of the work? No one is if you keep score.
Are you keeping track of everything that happens in your marriage? Do you make mental tally marks every time your spouse goes out with friends or does something fun? Do you have a mental scorecard of who does what chores in your marriage?
If so, stop!
It’s tempting to see the work/housework balance as unequal, or as if one partner is carrying more of the load than the other. This becomes more apparent as you have kids and the tasks naturally increase and the burden grows for the at-home parent.